Thursday, May 28, 2009

doubt

Thew & I watched a great movie tonight...put on some comfy clothes, lounged on the couch in the comfortable way we do (with Aslan even joining us) & settled in to enjoy a rarity.

A movie, nominated for a few academy awards, that was actually really good.  As a movie buff who still gets goosebumps before a movie begins & the previews start to roll, who still feels the excitement of a little kid about to indulge in their favorite habit when the production studio's lion roars or that little boy sitting on the crescent moon throws his lore in the water & watches the ripples (you other movie buffs know what I mean)...it amazes me how excited I get when I see a good movie.  You see, like most of you reading this, you have probably been where I have been in the past decade or two.  You set yourself up to watch what you think will be a great movie...you heard it was good from so and so, it had this amazing cinematography or that famous actor who always makes a great choice in a role & you watch as your expectations are dashed when the movie disappoints.

Now I would definitely label myself as a conservative movie watcher.  As I have gotten older & learned more, I have slowly whittled my movie collection down from movies that may have been wonderful to me at the time (only because I chose to overlook a scene or two that maybe wasn't edifying due to language or another much more offensive action) down to a smaller collection that is more appropriate for a God fearing woman like myself.  This has taken a lot of effort and strength to try and take a step back and truly think, if Jesus was coming over to hang out & watch a flick, would I want to watch this with him?  Some of you may think that's a little too much to think that, but Thew & I disagree.  You see, our marriage is founded on Him...He is the most honored guest in our home & Thew and I think it would be the most amazing & entertaining evening if Jesus could physically stop by our house for the evening to hang out.  When people ask you that question about if you could have dinner with anyone (dead or alive) who would it be, we both would automatically have Him on our list.  The more I read my Bible, the more I believe that while He was on earth (and even now), no one could ever leave an encounter with Him unchanged & if they didn't want to admit that, they were hardening more than just their hearts.

Anyway, I digressed a little bit there, didn't I?  I hope you don't mind...I tend to do that a lot, don't I?  All well...  :)

If you haven't had the pleasure of watching "Doubt", please do.  Sit back, take an hour and 40 minutes without distractions, and think.  There's so much to this movie I don't even want to give away any of it or talk about it in a forum (though I secretly would, but I don't have the time for that now  :).

Just trust me, rent it, watch it...if you do, let me know what you think.  I, for one, wanted nothing more than to play it again once the end credits started to roll so I could try and pick up on more.  The four wonderful actors were superb and there is so much subtlety that I think I might form a different opinion on what each character meant with every statement each time I watch it.  There was only one whispered bad word that you can barely hear, no one even wore anything inappropriate...now there were things that were implied that were disturbing, but the thing is that you never really know.  Nobody ever truly talks about anything...everything is skirted in a way that you think somebody's gotta reveal something, but then, nothing is.  Oh, I wish we got to know some of these characters a little more...they were so intriguing!  And best of all, when a character shares a secret about another character & Hollywood had the chance to have a Christian judge that character in the way the world often thinks Christians do, the director chose to rather have that Christian show compassion.  You get the watch the intimacy of how spending just a little over 1 hour watching someone can change your opinion of them entirely...you see through their hardened shell into their soul & wonder with them why things happen the way they do.  And then you realize that it's not up to us to know & that we need to be okay with that.  That we really don't have control like we think we do & that God allows things to happen because he gave us the gift of free will so that we're not His robots.  He desires for us to use our free will so that we can be all that we are supposed to be, but unfortunately, it doesn't always work out that way.  And you know what?  This girl wouldn't want it any other way, despite the unimaginable hardships, trials, and struggles it brings...there is a greater good, a greater purpose, and a greater work going on than we ever could even fathom & I for one, can wait to see how it all works out...

now THAT'S what makes a good movie  :)

Friday, May 22, 2009

Memorial Day Weekend...you took a long time to get here!

Ahhh, Memorial Day Weekend...

...do you know what I had to get through to have you get here?


...five 5-day weeks in a row (don't even think about saying that that's not challenging until you step into a classroom & try to do it!  Much less teach a class that doesn't have children confined to chairs, but chucking 6 lb. metal shot puts, hard rubber discus', & running full speed around a track when other kids aren't paying attention and have to dart out of the way...whew...okay, we're all still intact, praise God!)...

...I know there were other things that I had to get through to get to you, but right now, I can't even think & don't want to think...I just want to sit...

...& veg...

...& eat...

...& do nothing but see family...

...watch countless movies...

...and spend some much QT with my new Beth Moore Bible Study "Breaking Free"...


...I think we'll hang out with these peeps...



& get some quality time with this little one (who isn't so little anymore)...



& then we'll go see these people...



& these people...



& take walks around this...



& this...



& walk across this...



& stroll along this path...



or maybe up here...


ahhh...Memorial Day Weekend...

...it's been too long since I've seen you last...

...& I can't wait to spend these next 3 days enjoying your presence  :)

Thursday, May 14, 2009

Quote of the Day...

Tonight, after a sweet peck that even over 6 years after our first one still melts me every time, my dear husband kept his arms around me tight, looked me in the eyes, smirked his classic goofy smile and said,


"We can clean the house together tomorrow."


All I could do was sigh contently & think that there is nothing better I would rather do with my Friday night.


I'm a pretty lucky gal, ain't I?

Sunday, May 10, 2009

To My Two Favorite Mommas...

"A mother is not a person to lean on, but a person to make leaning unnecessary."
-Dorothy Canfield Fisher


"A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie."
-Tenneva Jordan



"Men are what their mothers made them."
-Ralph Waldo Emerson


oh, dear...

Saturday, May 9, 2009

Fohner Family Update: 6 Month Rewind

There will be more pics to follow this (as I get the time to upload them...we'll see how that goes), but I realized that unless we talk to you fairly often, I've kept my faithful readers (all 3 of you) in the dark about what's been going on with us lately.

By lately, I mean since November...eeek, I'm horrible.  Scrolling through, I have realized that since Matt turned 29 almost 6 months ago, I haven't shared pretty much anything about what's been going on in our life...just mindless posts with funny videos about leprechauns & dogs, surveys, why where I grew up is awesome, & sentimental stuff about Thew, our young pup, & my momma.

So because I have been super bad here's a quick, phrased summary of what's been happening...aaannnddd go...


...some of our best friends from our Young Marrieds Small Group, Charlie & Christa became Mr. & Mrs. Rodger (& just bought their first home...yay!)...


...watched our fav GA-native family move from Fred-neck to Guam for 3 years & cried like babies watching them leave our Young Marrieds Small Group a little less whole (miss you Lee, Tif, Lyrik, Lenden, & Kinslee...sooo much!)...


...my daddy turned 60-minus-4 (we count backwards from decades in the Bateman family, which makes me less than 4 months shy from 30-minus-3...yikes)...


...I had a fabulous Bachelorette Weekend Party with my momma, her best friend, & her daughter a month shy of my mom's wedding at the Cambridge Hyatt (fabulous)...


...spent Thanksgiving break with Thew's huge family (his mom, her husband, Thew's 3 older sisters, their husbands, & our 9 nephews & nieces...super funness  :)...


...honorably served as my mom's Matron of Honor when she married Todd (super surreal, but had a blast)...


...celebrated Christmas with our 4 families (ironically around the time that "Four Christmas" came out in theaters...both sets of mine & Thew's parents are divorced...& yes, we're very busy around any holiday)...


...Thew took part in his annual post-Christmas trip back to OC with Ed while I had Christmas parties with my best friends from home & here (LOVE my ladies)...




...remembered my paternal grandfather on the anniversary of his death (whom I never had the honor of meeting since he passed away 6 years before I was born...I hope he's with Jesus so I can meet him one day)...


...sadly watched the sinking Steelers win the Super Bowl (thankfully safely surrounded by other non-Steeler fans with our Young Marrieds Small Group friends...seriously people, we are not that close to Pittsburgh to have that many Pitt fans when we are less than 40 mins. away from Baltimore)...



...Ash & I took turns hosting some awesome events for the Youth Group Girls including a sleepover where I surprisingly got to sleep for a consecutive 6 hours without getting my hands dipped in warm water or lipstick on my face...



...celebrated our 7th Valentine's Day together (though not really, I'm kinda anti-Valentine's Day & other made up, Hallmark holidays...but Thew & I had a great time taking a night to chill out & just be together).  We also got to celebrate with Barnette's, Ash's parents, & their best friends at the annual Husbands-Pamper-The-Wives-Dinner)...


...found out I'm getting transferred to another school for the 2nd year in a ROW (I was moved from the High School Level down to Middle School Level because I took a break from coaching last year & now am being moved again because our enrollment went down making it not necessary to have 5 PE Teachers at our school anymore [me being the newbie to the school made me the unfortunate candidate])...this was a blow because I'm finally at a school that I really like teaching at with a department that rocks & has made me feel at home (I have thankfully been blessed to always work with a great department at all the schools I've taught at for the past 5 years)...


...found out as a HUGE answer to prayer that I'll be able to stay at the Middle School Level here in the county since a new PE position was created at another Middle School (their enrollment went up) close by our house (Middle Schoolers are my favorite to teach...possibly because I'm married to one that has their same maturity level?  That's up for debate)...


...got all sappy when we celebrated the 4th Anniversary of when we got engaged, which was right after our 2 Year Dating Anniversary (ahhh, memories)...



...spent an awesome weekend at the Grandparent's with my little bro's & Thew and had a blast with them & my Grandparent's best friends who always have the coolest stories (they are the equivalent of Kyle, Ashley, Thew, & I 60 years from now)...



...took 2 random days off to chill in SP & see my two fav SAHM (Stay-At-Home-Moms) & their baby girls...




...remembered my paternal Grandmother on the anniversary of her passing who I was able to spent 15 years loving before she succumbed to a long battle against lung cancer (if you use tobacco, please, for the sake of your family & friends, quit.  I have lost both my dad's parents to the deathly effects of tobacco use.  Todd, if you're reading this, you better quit before you make my mom a young widow...seriously!!!)...

...celebrated a slew of family & friend's b-days (Aslan's 3rd, Kyle's 27th, Rache's 26th, Pammie's 26th, Scotty's 25th, Jake's 28th, Heather's & Shannon's (I won't mention your ages b/c I know you don't want me to), my Grandma's 77th, as well as the actual birth day of Thew's God Daughter, Gianna...sooo beautiful!)...



...visited Ash's parent's Shabin in WV for a weekend with her parents, Kyle, Ash, her little sis, & Thew and had a blast helping them build their dream home on the mountain...



...Thew finished his season with his JV B-Ball Team only losing 4 games during the whole 4 months they played & helped coach the Varsity team to the Regional Finals of the State Tournament for the 3 year in a row...



...spent another amazing weekend at the Cambridge Hyatt with Mom, Todd, the little bro's, Thew, & my mom's best friend's family (that place is magical)...



...celebrated Easter with our 4 families (traveling from the Eastern Shore to Southern MD to VA & back...lots of time away from home, but so much fun)...


...spent a day together in DC taking pics & reminiscing about all the awesome memories I have from growing up with multiple visits there with family (Museum of Natural History, you will always be my fav)...



...watched the Wizards lose (go figure) with Mom, Todd, the little bro's, & Thew and ran into one of our friends from FCA in college (we miss your awesome fellowship, Damien!)...


...spent a day in NY exploring Central Park, taking tons of pics, & fattening ourselves with NY's finest cuisine...


...watched Thew preach an awesome sermon on how important it is to stay in God's Word to the Youth at one of our Coffee House Nights...


...continued our monthly tradition of Game Nights with our Small Group where the wives always mercilessly beat the husbands in any game we play  :)...


...started studying Ephesians & learning so much with my fav Fred-neck ladies (our original group of 5 has doubled since we first started studying together over 2 & 1/2 years ago...it's been awesome to see how God has grown our fellowship...to think that I was so lonely & knew none of the girls when I moved here just 4 years ago & how blessed I have been by their friendships once God brought us together)... 


...attended the Senior Night of the Varsity Girls Lax Team I used to coach & sat in awe of how some of them thanked me in their speeches when they didn't even know I was going to be there (you always hope you make an positive impact on the kids you teach & coach...love those girls)...


...lost horribly 18-5 to the current Salisbury team in the Alumni Lax Game, which isn't too shabby since they've been ranked #1 almost their entire season & we were missing our goalie who had just given birth only 48 hours prior (congrats, Justin, Ali, & little Noah)...was thrilled that I scored 2 goals & an assist considering I haven't played in a game since stopping playing club ball over a year & a half ago (I still got it somewhere down deep)...


...finally, after almost 4 years of living in our home, getting some landscaping done & realizing that I LOVE yard work now that we own a home...



WHEW...okay, that brings us to today where Thew & Kyle will be getting some much needed stuff done around our house while I head to out to lunch with the women in my mom's side of the family for a Mother's Day Brunch...gotta go...


Until next time...Fohner Family ouuut  :)